Scientology Solutions - Advice Column

Problem: My relationships are messed up. Even when I really like someone, we always seem to be fighting.

Solution: Next time you have a fight, each of you should take a walk around the block—going in opposite directions. When you meet, you should be feeling friendlier. Continue the walking till you’ve both calmed down.  This technique is fully described in the book, The Problems of Work, available in the book store.

Then to prevent fights in the future, practice good communication skills—really listen to each other and acknowledge what the other person has to say. And actually, the real reason that relationships get messed up is because of secrets between the two of you, which leads to less and less communication.   So, don’t do something that you wouldn’t want your partner to find out about.  You won’t believe the difference.  The Mission offers a Scientology^® course in communication, The Success Through Communication Course.  Look in the book store and buy the Scientology Handbook booklet, The Components of Understanding, which will help you understand and improve all of your relationships.

Problem:  I'm worried and feel out of control on my job and don't know what to do. Can Scientology technology help me with this?

 Solution:  L. Ron Hubbard says in the book, The Problems of Work,  "One of the ways of getting over such a condition is to simply touch or handle one's various tools of the trade and the surroundings in which he works. If a man were to go all the way around an office in which he had worked for years and touch the walls and window ledges and the equipment and tables and desks and chairs...he would feel much better about the entire room." 

A Scientologist can help you with this procedure or, better yet,  you can simply buy this book and help yourself.  Go to the book store page and buy the book today.

Problem:  How do you, without using force, get a child to do things?

Solution: People think that persuasion works with children. It doesn’t. It’s communication that does the trick. You say, “Well, it’s time for you to go to bed now,” and he says, “No.” Don’t stay on the subject. Leave it alone and just talk about something else, “What did you do today?” “Where?” “How?” “Oh, did you? Is that a fact?” “Well, how about going to bed?” and the answer will be “Okay.”

One doesn’t have to use force. Go into communication with the child, and control follows this as an inevitability. Omit control from the beginning when bringing up a child and he who looks to you for a lot of his direction and control is gypped. He thinks you don’t care about him.  Help yourself handle your children better and buy the Scientology Handbook booklet, Children, available in the book store.